COUNSELLING, NLP & HYPNOTHERAPY IN SURREY"Our thinking creates problems that the same type of thinking will not solve"
Albert Einstein.COUNSELLING IN SURREY
For those unfamiliar with the counselling process, “The overall aim of counselling is to provide an opportunity for the client to work towards living in a more satisfying and resourceful way – the objectives of particular counselling relationships however, will vary according to the client’s needs. Counselling may be concerned with personal development issues; addressing and resolving specific problems; making decisions; coping with crisis; (e.g. stress, bereavement and redundancy), developing personal insight and knowledge; working through feelings of inner conflict or improving relationships with others.” (Code of Ethics and Practice of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy). To visit BACP
Crucially, the counsellor’s role is to facilitate change in the client, enabling the client to work through issues in ways which respect their values, personal resources and capacity for self-determination…rather than to tell the client what to do. Counselling then presents a unique opportunity for the client to work through many issues in a way that is safe whilst providing solutions; thus self empowering the client.
The client’s personal space is always respected, an area of the client’s life is explored only when there is a felt sense of safety and an open willingness to do so on behalf of the client.
NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING. NLP IN SURREY
NLP is a powerful body of information about how the human mind works, built up since the 1970`s and continuing to evolve through new research. why not visit ANLP
At the heart of NLP is a wide range of methods and models offering understanding in the way that we think, behave and change. It offers a flexible approach which brings about positive, fast change in individuals and organisations and empowers them to adapt to an ever-shifting world.
NLP intervention provides the skills to define and achieve outcomes or goals with a heightened awareness of our five senses, allowing us to remain flexible, on track and maintain rapport with those around us.
"NLP is an attitude with an insatiable curiosity about human beings maintaining a methodology that leaves behind it a trail of techniques." Richard Bandler (co-creator of NLP)
"The strategies, tools and techniques of NLP represent an opportunity unlike any other for the exploration of human functioning, or more precisely, that rare and valuable subset of human functioning known as genius." John Grinder (co-creator of NLP)
One of the principles of NLP is that we are always communicating and a very large proportion of our communication is non-verbal.
So what are we communicating? Is what we intend to convey the same as what the listener understands? If not, how do we recognise the cues and adjust?
Research, sponsored by British Telecommunications PLC, BT, tells us that 6 out of 10 people in the UK want to be better at communicating. NLP provides practical tools for achieving highly skilled communication
Language affects how we think and respond. The very process of converting experience into language requires that we condense, distort, and summarise how we perceive the world.
NLP provides questions and patterns to make our communication more clearly understood. NLP teaches us to understand how language affects us through implicit and embedded assumptions.
The English language is full of traps and pitfalls for the unwary communicator... for example, if you are told NOT to think of an elephant, you will immediately think of an elephant, which is the opposite result from that intended!
Listen for the use of implied assumptions when you use the word "but". For example, "I like the way that you did that piece of work, but... ." The listener tends to forget everything that went before the "but", waiting for problems to emerge.
Since advertisers, the media and politicians use language to convey their messages, learning about language through NLP can increase awareness and "consumer protection" for your mind.
Modelling excellence: NLP processes and strategies have developed as a result of discovering how experts or excellent leaders do what they do well, Milton Erickson the worlds acknowledged hypnotherapy expert was closely modelled during the development of NLP; it is then possible to teach these skills to others through the vehicle of NLP.
Modelling skills, based on detailed observations and careful questions around beliefs and values, are the key to competence in NLP. Learning the specific components of how others do something well will provide you with new options and accelerate your learning. The NLP Spelling Strategy (developed by Robert Dilts, USA ) was modelled from naturally good spellers and is easily taught to children and adults alike.
NLP is about mastering your mind, describing in very precise terms the images, sounds, and feelings that make up our inner and outer world.
How do we know what we know? How do we do what we do? How do we know what we don't know?
For example, how do you know that a pleasant memory is pleasant? How do you know when to feel scared or happy? How do you know that we like or dislike something? How do we learn a subject easily, or not?
NLP provides us with the equivalent of a user`s manual for our brain - NLP techniques demonstrate how we "code" our experience. When we understand the specific ways that our brains make distinctions, then it is easier to make changes, to learn and to communicate effectively.
NLP allows you to devise strategies for dealing with challenges. For example, if you find it difficult to get up in the morning, ask someone who does not find it difficult how they motivate themselves to do it. Other applications abound in education, business (e.g. competency modelling), health, sports and personal development.
NLP is a tool to calibrate and understand how we make sense of the world. NLP studies the experiences of an individual; how our thoughts, actions and feelings work together to produce our experience.
It does NOT assume that we all do this the same way. It does NOT produce formulae for body language or even eye movements without understanding the individual. In NLP we know that each person has a unique style of learning, perceiving and responding to the world. NLP is inherently respectful of differences.
NLP has a wide range of practical applications in business (e.g. management, personnel, sales, consulting), training and development, education, dyslexia, the helping professions, health, relationships, writing and the arts, sports, parenting, hobbies and personal development - anywhere communicating and excelling are important and especially in building a constructive relationship with our self.
The more we are interested in communication, personal effectiveness and development - the more NLP has to offer.
Many people come to NLP for relief from their own limitations. The NLP attitudes and techniques can provide freedom from old habits, fears and limiting beliefs and give structure for new and empowering ways of being in the world. NLP offers more choice in the way we communicate, how we respond and how we feel.
When you have more options you can make better decisions. If you have not been living the life you want, NLP offers you a path to new and satisfying alternatives.
NLP in the Helping Professions
Much of the initial modelling in NLP focused on how effective therapists helped their clients to change. Most of their behaviour and language was beyond their conscious awareness: the analysis and modelling of the therapists` techniques produced information of a highly practical nature. The personal changework processes in NLP are wide ranging and powerful. Probably the most publicised is the Fast Phobia Cure (originally developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder (USA), the founders of NLP) which can help people overcome phobias they may have had for many years.
There are also processes which help with eating disorders. They are guided by precise language patterns and a careful systematic approach for checking the ecology or ensuring that the proposed change will fit with the overall values and other areas of a person`s life.
The dynamic world of NLP is continually refining existing patterns and adding new developments which help people make the changes they want. allow me to help you to achieve your aims with an NLP approach.
HYPNOTHERAPY IN SURREYHYPNOTHERAPY IS THE KEY THAT ENABLES THE VAST POWER OF THE MIND TO BRING ABOUT POSITIVE AND BENEFICIAL CHANGES.
Hypnosis is a natural state of heightened awareness, where you are able to open your mind to beneficial suggestions and where you can make use of your imagination to help make positive changes in your lifeWhat does it feel like to be hypnotised?
Everybody experiences trance differently - it is a unique experience, but the client is always in control. In general a hypnotic trance is a pleasant, relaxing and tranquil experience. While hypnotised you will be aware of all physical sensations around you, perhaps even noticing sounds you wouldn't otherwise be aware of. After a traumatic incident such as a car accident or violent robbery, a subject under hypnosis may be able to recall with extreme accuracy, car numbers, details etc that their subconscious mind has remembered but their conscious mind has overlooked. When you are fully aware again you may be able to recall everything that happened while you were in your trance, depending how deep your trance was.
Remember way back to this morning when you were half awake and half asleep? You couldn't be bothered to wake yourself up properly but because you weren't really all the way deep down asleep you could appreciate all the comfortable feelings that go with being snuggled down in your bed. Well that's pretty much how it feels to be hypnotised. You're not asleep but you're not awake either. Hypnotherapy is rather like being in a daydream, it is a state called "trance". It might be a deep trance or it might only be a light trance. Whatever level you achieve it's absolutely the right level for you at that moment. With hypnosis there's no right or wrong way to experience it, there's just different ways and they're all good. Many people experience a trance like state while driving a car - the journey is often made on "automatic pilot" mode, the mind being totally occupied by other matters. How many times do you "switch off" in the middle of a boring conversation or lecture, and daydream?How is Hypnotherapy different to other therapies?
Hypnotherapy is a brief strategic therapy - one that is aimed specifically at finding a resolution to your problem as quickly, safely and efficiently as possible. It is not a long drawn out method of solving a problem. A skilled hypnotherapist will have the ability during a case study to ascertain whether you need to regress back to find the root of the problem, or whether it is more applicable to use future progression techniques to change tomorrow.
Hypnotherapy utilises hypnosis, a state of altered consciousness in which the therapist can help you to access the deeper levels of awareness, to which you are usually oblivious in your normal day-to-day functioning. More often than not, what you are experiencing as a problem, whether emotional, psychological or psychosomatic (i.e. actually producing physical symptoms) is only a surface EFFECT of a deeper underlying mental/emotional CAUSE. It is at these deeper levels of consciousness that we as hypnotherapists work with you, to bring about change in the way you feel, think and behave. A skilled hypnotherapist will always work with your co-operation and in the most caring and nurturing manner.
If left untreated, problems can sometimes create a ripple effect into other areas of your life, and what many people find is, on completion of effective hypnotherapy, other problems seem to melt away.
Life is what you make it, so why not make it better? Hypnotherapy can improve your life for the better on a daily basis including the way you feel about both yourself and the world around you. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Why not visit BACP Why not visit ANLP
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