What My Clients Have To Say
"I cannot stop thinking about the process that you have taken me through and the changes I have made. Just wanted to thank you for all your help and support, you've helped me through the most difficult period of my life. So thankful.
Thank you so so much."
Gary - Twickenham
I had been a smoker for over 30 years. Going through depression my smoking increased to forty a day. I had tried all the usual methods to try and quit, nicorette patches, books, gum, electronic cigarettes, but i just couldn't kick the habit & the moment I stopped smoking I felt terrible, really down. I was having problems breathing and constantly coughing. I decided to give James a try, after all I had nothing to lose, I felt so low.
After my first session I decided I was not going to smoke again. I hadn't even realised the effect the session had on me, not only did I feel like I didn't want to smoke, I felt happy and excited about the future.
The tools I have gained with James in therapy over the following weeks have helped me to feel confident that I will never be a smoker again.
I feel that I have a future to look forward to now. If I had known how successful this therapy would be, I would of done it years ago. I highly recommend this to anyone I just wish I had done it sooner.
Kirsty - Woking
thank you so much for your help with my daughter and her depression, she is now going to school and looking forward to being with her friends, she is much more confident and therefore happier in herself.
Hopefully she will be a success in her new school.
Sandra - Pyrford
Thirty Years Practice Experience
Several years experience working at Woking Mental Health
Founding member of the NHS Register
NCH, National Council of Hypnotherapists
HA, Hypnotherapy Association
BSCH, British Society of Clinical Hypnosis
BACP, British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
NSP, National Society of Psychotherapists
Principal of The SCCP - successfully training therapists in Surrey since 1996 to work with depression and many other issues.
Through The SCCP responsible for the research & development of Brief Strategic Interventions to combat psychological issues such as depression.
Experience of training doctors at Frimley Park Hospital in the clinical use of hypnotherapy.
Validated & Qualified by The British Medical Hypnotherapy Board
I remember denying that I had depression for many months until a good friend sat me down and made me read a section on depression from a GP's practice leaflet. The likelihood is that most adults will have experienced the illness by the time they reach middle age. Women are twice as likely to suffer from depression as men, although men are far more likely to commit suicide. This may be because men are more reluctant to seek help for depression. Depression can affect people of any age, including children. Studies have shown that 2% of teenagers in the UK are affected by depression. A family history of depression increases the risk of getting the illness.
A few people still think that depression is not a real illness and that it is a form of character weakness or an admission of failure. This is just not true. Depression is a real illness with real effects, and it is certainly not a sign of failure. Many famous people have suffered depression, including Winston Churchill, Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, John Cleese, J.K. Rowling, Kurt Cobain and Sheryl Crow to name only a few. Churchill used to refer to his bouts of depression as his 'Black Dog', after his nanny had commented on his episodes of depression during his childhood, saying it was 'as though a black dog was sitting on his back'. (Adapted and taken from NHS UK)
Billie Holiday sang of the cold old rain, but now scientists have shown that the associations of gloom and greyness with depression may be more than metaphorical.
A study by German scientists suggests that depression could impair people's ability to detect black and white contrast, and that the world could literally fade to grey when we feel blue. They compared the phenomenon, identified through tests on the retinas of patients with depression, to turning down the contrast control on a television. The finding could explain why we can experience the flat greyness to our world when suffering with depression One in five of the population suffers, like Stephen Fry, from depression at some point in their lives (Jacqueline Micalizzi/Rex Features The Times).
Earlier I remarked on the way that we think can increase the chances of depression. I believe that our expectations and misunderstandings of how we should live or what we need to do to be successful and even our definition of success play a significant role in gaining and maintaining depression. Which is why I would like to thank my good friend Emma Johnson for bringing the Mayonnaise Jar to my attention.
When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the two cups of coffee.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes." The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. "Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things - your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favourite passions - and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
"The pebbles are the other things that matter, like your job, your house and your car."
"The sand is everything else - the small stuff. If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. "Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical check-ups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."
One of the students raised her hand and enquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. "It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend." Anon
Puts everything into perspective, doesn't it?
How many of us fill our lives with work, the house that we want, the car we want to drive and then wonder why we are not happy. Can you imagine flooding with anxiety because you can no longer afford to food shop at Harrods and be beside yourself in case people see you shopping in Sainsbury's? How about feeling that you are a failure as a person because you did not achieve the grades that you perceived were successful in an exam or degree?
Please remember what other people think or say of you is their business; your happiness, your life is your business. Over the coming months I hope to bring you more on the way that we work with depression and how we can help clients to think rationally.
However if I can help you now please EMAIL me for your FREE INITIAL CONSULTATION.
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